Saturday, November 19, 2011
This topic often comes up at cocktail hour with the ladies, each of us comparing love lives – and it’s something of a revelation for me to hear the confessions of those who’ve gone months and years, without an intimate moment with their husband. And not for medical reasons.
When was the last time you made love to your husband? The man you’ve committed your life to? Yesterday? Couple months? Was it a year ago or more?
Today we’re breaking the love ban. Today, entering the most stressful time of year we are going to find time, make time, invest in the time to make love.
I devote my life to the creation of love, the manifestation of it through trial and circumstance in my characters. Not unlike daily life, where we get the kids ready for school, then head to work, then to after work activities, home again, eat and to bed too exhausted to think about making love much less do it, but - oh yes, there’s a but (and a butt) - not any more. Not today.
Today, this morning, find him and kiss him. Tell him that you love him. Set aside your task, your differences that have cropped up over the years – no matter how trivial or heavy they may be, put down your cell phone/his cell phone, and remember – vividly – why you fell in love with him. He’s your best friend, compatriot, the loving father of your children, the one who held your hair back when you got too drunk one night six years ago, or last week. ;0) Now, kiss him again.
Love, is an intimate act. Some say it’s hard, complicated, and stressful. Only if you let it. And today, it’s not. Today it is simple, today it is uncomplicated, easy and joyous. It is the sharing of a moment together, the soft kisses and a giggle. Yeah, you know there’s giggling. It’s slow. It’s the moment that you steal once the kids are off to bed or at a friend’s house. It’s the moment you get when the bedroom door swings shut with that knowing click. It’s the moment you’ll get today when all else has gone completely berserk but in this one thing you’ll find someone you’ll remember that you love. Someone that will ease your heart and make you smile. It is that person you’ll make love to today.
During the holiday season, it is easy for us all to get wrapped up in food preparation, gift buying, holiday party hosting and forget the finer moments. The moments between taking the turkey out of the oven and making gravy that you steal a kiss or a scandalous fondle. It’s remembering that through all these amazing luscious wonders of the season that we are humans and by nature we are emotional creatures who thrive on love. And while you are having a panic attack over the last of the Diestel turkeys having been sold moments ago and where on gods green earth are you to find another?? Take a deep breath, think of that lovely intimate moment you shared with your husband and smile. Because who gives a shit when you have that?